If you are unhappy with your life, you will have to give up some element of it at some point so you can move forward. Divorce is always a challenge, which is why so many married couples stay together even if their marriage is unfulfilling or unhealthy.
Instead of following the voice inside their heads encouraging them to leave, some people simply come up with excuses to stay. Instead of being one of these people, learn how to tell if you really should leave.
These 6 questions will help you more thoroughly evaluate whether leaving your marriage is the right answer for you or not.
- Lack of mutual respect: When one or both spouses stop respecting one another, the foundation of the marriage is torn apart and little can be done to mend it. This is the biggest cause of divorce and is usually behind all the other issues involved.
- Excessive control or possessiveness: A healthy relationship partner supports you in having your own life, interests, and outside friends without feeling guilty or intimidated. Be wary of a spouse who wants to know who you talk to, where you go and how much money you spend daily.
- Blaming others for problems or situations that go wrong: Spouses who won’t take responsibility for their own actions and find fault with everybody else, especially you, create a climate ripe for divorce
- Too self-absorbed or easily insulted: If you have to walk on egg shells because you are fearful or uncomfortable speaking your mind and if there is no regard for your comfort or concerns, you’re with a spouse who only cares about him or herself.
- Consistently critical: A spouse who is critical, degrading, nasty, argumentative or moody is emotionally abusive. They instill fear, insecurity and doubt in their partners and can destroy your self-esteem.
- History of past physical abuse: A batterer usually will not change unless they’ve had some professional intervention. They make you feel unsafe and are intimidating or threatening with their behavior or language.