So far in my practice with customers I see that lots of issues related to self love are steaming from being criticized at some point in our life.
Wow, that’s a big one! Everybody is criticizing and being criticized, right?
We love it so much that we even give it various positive sounding forms such as “constructive criticism”. But what we don’t seem to acknowledge widely despite the many studies (to be detailed later in a larger writing) is the harm it does to us as individuals and collective. Criticism can come in many forms and from all sources so how do we fight it? For one, let’s choose a day when we decide to be non-critic: not with our child, not with our spouse, co-workers, employees, lady at the store, etc. How does it feel?
And for the 2nd when somebody is targeting us – I’m sure opportunity will arise plenty – instead of taking it right in and telling ourselves “what did I do wrong?”; “am I really like this?”; “stupid me”, let’s just say “this is not about me, I’m sorry you’re having a bad day. How can I help?” Again, it might sound funny and pretty impossible but play with this for 1 day, maybe over the weekend when you are more relaxed and enjoy the easiness around it.