39 days of Hacking Body and Mind

39 days of Hacking Body and Mind

by Laura Marin Kohlbaum

 

For the past 10 years of my life I have been curiously (and many times out of necessity) diving into every topic related to how us as human beings work. And when I say diving I mean from reading, watching documentaries to trying it all out until total exhaustion. From my body to my mind, emotions, psychology, patterns of behaviour, interactions with others, spirituality, what makes me happy, what motivates me, how we form habits and how do we break them, and everything around what we call “human being”. 

In the area of body, I dare say I’ve tried most of it: from being forced to eat as a child stuff that I didn’t like to over indulging myself as a teenager, to severe dieting in my youth years, to the confusion of all information around me and how to distinguish between what’s good and what doesn’t work for me. Little did I know back then that the best answers are not to be found outside only but really by carefully listening to oneself and paying attention to the reactions to various foods, triggers, people, environments and truly listening to one’s heart.  In 2006 when I decided to switch to a vegetarian diet for example I faced lots of mockery and disbelief, I was the joke of every social gathering and when later on I became a mom even the target of harsh criticism. Then I experimented with eating vegan, later on with all sorts of diets, exercise programs, supplementing, fasting, intermittent fasting, nutritional ketosis and many others. On top I have been experimenting with my thoughts and emotions in all sorts of roles: daughter, mom, wife, career woman, Romanian immigrant woman, unemployed, broke and broken, crazy happy, outsider, egocentric, leader, entrepreneur, deeply misaligned, totally aligned or whatever other label one might consider; and in those various roles and circumstances of my life I have applied to myself (still am) all sorts of processes and procedures: psychotherapy, hypnotherapy, meditation, visualisation, breathing techniques, NLP, coaching and have pursued many of them all the way to specialisation in some of these fields.

So now, considering everything that I have learned and experimented on my own, I have definitely come to respect the chaos of the human nature with all its so called imperfections. We are totally not broken and we do not need to be fixed in any way. For centuries we strived for more, we still are, it’s one of our needs to self-actualise and to grow which means that yes, we might consider ourselves imperfect so that we are always attracted to this quest of growth. And if we look at the evolution of humanity simplistically, it kind of proves this point: we always dreamt and created more and moreover we did this best in groups or teams or in association with others. For ages communities thrived by supporting each other, we just don’t do this anymore and my belief is that it shows in the decadence of the human connection that we see all around us. We have the choice to continue to live like this or to decide that we do want to make a difference in our lives and the lives of others and some times it’s easier and faster to just have a partner to hold us accountable in this journey. Not to give us solutions, because this is not what coaching does (on the contrary we honour our client as an expert in their life) but to give us that space that we often do not take of introspection in a safe and non-judging environment. And yes it’s up to each and every one of us if we feel we need it or not.

 

Self-Actualisation need is on top of the needs pyramid, so there is a need for us as human beings to work on ourselves and do something meaningful with our lives whether we choose to pursue this on our own or with somebody’s help.

 

And there is indeed a lot of clutter out there in the personal development arena as well as a tons of great information and tools. How do you cut through the clutter and make the right decision? How do you take any decision in your life? My 2 cents putting my coach hat this time… use your core values and steer your life upon your personal true north.


So bottom line, yes we always have a choice: to stay in our imperfections and accept them as they are or dream further and do something about it. And both choices are ok. But if someone does need to change and need some inspiration they might just get it from my path. Hence, I start a new path today, as I am approaching 39 years young and diving deep into a new career and I make myself accountable by launching 39 days of Hacking Body and Mind, a journey where I distill everything that I have learned and apply 1 new habit per day to make myself the best me I can be.

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